Celebration of Me

How many times have I looked at forms of print/media and saw nothing that reminded me of me? How many times have I read the beauty section of mainstream magazines and realized halfway through that this advice doesn’t apply to me? Even in 2012 there is still a obvious imbalance. However, there is hope. Women of color and their beauty is beginning to be celebrated and/or embraced. Finally!!!! (There are some companies that have since jumped on the bandwagon. Oh! Now black is beautiful??? Pshhhhh!!!). Our images are now being fused into the beauty industry and instead of dwelling on the reasons I am delighted to know that at least we are being recognized. There are so many products and options to explore. I am having such a wonderful love affair with my hair. I am. I especially enjoy the fact that my daughters can be proud of their heritage and the differences that make them unique. To those who think that all African American have the same hair and that we enjoy your attempts at touching our hair in an experimental fashion…YOU’RE WRONG!!! I have 3 daughters and none of them have hair that has the same characteristics. I treat each one of their personalities differently and the same applies to each head of beautiful hair. They are beautiful.

With that being said, would you like to join the celebration?





and my youngest natural beauty!!!




DIY Liquid Hand Soap

We decided to make hand soap tonight for three reasons: 1. It’s more economical, 2. I am trying to ease my kids into using more natural products (the next time I do this I will attempt to make my own soap first) and 3. We ran out!!

I had been contemplating making hand soap for a few weeks and thought that it may be a good activity to share with the girls. Well, they seemed to really enjoy it and this could be something that they pass down for generations. My grandmother showed me how to make things from basic ingredients and I sorta got away from that. I am officially back!

So onto the process. We started with the following ingredients:



We used Poland Spring but regular tap water will do.


My oldest daughter grated the entire bar of soap into a small bowl.


We then combined the grated soap with 1 tablespoon of Glycerin (which I searched for and finally found at Walgreens. It was available online and in certain brick and mortar stores. Don’t get frustrated!!! It’s out there.), and 10 cups of water in a big pot.


We “cooked” it over medium high heat to dissolve the soap (constantly stirring). It took about 5 minutes to mesh. The next step was to allow the mixture to cool for another 5 minutes and transfer it in to the blender. We filled the blender all the way up and then dumped some back in the pot. Then we decided on halfway and that caused the mixture to foam all the way to the top making it hard to pour. (I would recommend the use of a funnel. Did we use one??? LOL).


From that first batch we decided to only fill the blender a third of the way and got a nice amount. We did this about 4 more times. Oh did I tell you that somebody pushed the button without putting the top on?? A mess!!! I used the extra suds to clean the countertop *shrugs*.


This is what the mixture yielded (minus ALL of the soap on the counter & floor….CLEAN KITCHEN!!!). These bottles will sit on the counter tonight to (hopefully) thicken a bit. I can say that the soap is very cleansing, smells good and feels great on the skin.

Aside from the mess, we enjoyed making the soap and will make more in the future. I am actually looking forward to a DIY PLAYDAY with my friend and her daughters. I am also excited to make many more household products.


So we left the soap in the containers overnight. When we checked them this morning, they were a glob of jelly rolling around in the jars. We shook them and they were the consistency (excuse me; I have a weak stomach and understand when statements make people queasy)  of spit saliva (better!). That really bothered me to the point that I was severely disinterested.

I had some things to do this morning and returned home to finish more tasks and take a nap. I jumped up!!! I wanted to make the mixture a bit more “lemony” so I added a cup of lemon juice. I poured a half of  a cup in each container and shook it WELL. Now the consistency it left, I liked. I also poured a bit in my palm and washed my hands. It cleanses!!! Note: it does NOT have a lot of suds but suds don’t equal clean. Those sudsy soaps often have “agents” added to create suds to help people believe in the psychology of the suds. Well, I am like my soap (until I run out and attempt another process) and I will also be making lotion bars to put some moisture back into my skin.

Inspiration of the Day


I saw this picture on Pinterest  via the daybook and thought: this is it. Simple!! My next thought was: I have fabric that I am excited about morphing into a maxi skirt and  the perfect shirt and then I remembered that my daughter wore it last night and that she is sleeping over her bff’s house this weekend. Oh well!! I guess I need to shop for another (no telling what it may look like when if I get it back.

bright I also found this chair on Pinterest and thought: WOW!!! This chair is amazing and worthy of my future “mom cave”.

Now if only I can peel myself away from Pinterest and get done what needs to be done for the day so that at some point I can return to pinning or at least get a DIY project (or two) done.



This is my next endeavor…I think. I must admit I’ve never used the buttonhole feature on my sewing machine. I have even packed away all of the other “feet”. So I guess some time this weekend I will decide if this is the one or make another skirt. I really should push myself.

Note: I think this post was written so that I could hold myself accountable. Let’s see if it works.

New Hair Care Regimen

So I am constantly on the search for ways to define and maintain my curls and up until now I have been pretty UNHAPPY {insert sadface}. So just like any other natural hair diva, I looked at YouTube videos and read blog after blog. I found some things and decided to try them. Afterall, what I was doing left me unsatisfied to say the least. I had even gotten to the point of contemplating using heat methods to straighten my tresses. (Note: I have not applied any heat to my hair in over four months but have been natural for years.) just so that I could present myself according to the standards of being groomed for both a job interview as well as court.

So today was the day (that’s what I kept telling myself). So here are the detes:

Prepoo: VO5 Moisture Milk and EVOO and let it sit without a cap (I forgot the cap. lol. I was yapping on the phone prior to applying and then started to mix the rest of my products).


Moisturizing Scalp Massage: 2 parts brown sugar to two parts VO5 shea cashmere moisturizing conditioner and brown sugar. Massage scalp with this mixture and it felt pretty good. Rinse well. (My rationale was that it would loosen dead skin and debris.)


Baking Soda Cleansing: 1 quart hot water, 1/4 c. baking soda and 1/4 c. brown sugar. Add baking soda and sugar to water and mix or shake until dissolved. Cool prior to use. (Test temperature on the inside of your wrist to avoid injury). Apply liberally to hair and scalp, shaking first if necessary. Massage into scalp and hair then rinse well. This left my hair feeling really clean. There was no product residue remaining on my strands.


This step was my absolute favorite part of it all!! Apple Cider Vinegar Rinse
3/4 c. water, 1/4 c. apple cider vinegar, 2 T. aloe vera gel, 1 T. honey, 8 drops peppermint oil, 8 drops tea tree oil. Combine The ingredients (I used an empty water bottle) and shake well. After cleansing, squirt all over scalp and hair. Allow it to sit for a few minutes and enjoy the tingle. (DID I EVER!!!! My daughter even walked by me and stated that I smelled good. Hmmm…) Rinse well. (You may use more to combat the harsh apple cider vinegar scent if you’d like. Smell your concoction, it should be somewhat pleasingly minty, but will still have a slight vinegar undertone.)

Deep Conditioning: I used warmed VO5 Shea Cashmere Moisturizing Conditioner to deep condition with a capful of EVOO added to the conditioner and allowed it to penetrate my tresses for an hour or so. After which, I rinsed well.

Styling: Eco Styler Olive Oil Styling Gel was applied to the curls that had been pronounced due to the level of care previously given (and I was shocked to see my curls so defined with minimal frizz). I proceeded to gel my fingertips and run the product on the curls that were already formed being careful as to not separate of manipulate to ensure that there would be much frizz or tangling. I applied EVOO and allowed my hair to air dry.

I was satisfied!!! My curls were visible and I received lots of compliments. I must say that I am still going to try to figure out how to eliminate “the crunch” from the gel. Maybe it will subside after a few days. We’ll see! Overall I am elated and think this regimen is a keeper.




Sorry!! for the poor quality of the pics of my hair. I took them while sitting at the computer so that I would have documentation.

Thank you for taking the time to take this small step with me on this journey!

If You Would Like To Leave A Message

I have been waiting for a super important telephone call. In the meantime, I decided to address some other pressing issues and secured another client as well. Oh! The telephone call? I missed it!!! Uggghhh!!! I was so frustrated because of all of the calls I could miss, it was from the one that I was actually anticipating. So I figured like any other stable-minded human being that I would just return the call…only to have to leave a message–leaving me wondering. (Isn’t that the worst?)

Even though I want the information so badly, I will try to calm myself and wait instead of racking my brain. (I know you couldn’t see the long pause). The phone rang and it was the call I have been looking for!!! So now that call has inspired me to do some other things and so things are moving along at a pretty face pace and in the right direction. (I am also thinking why haven’t I dealt with this earlier???) Anyway, as the saying goes better late than never.

I guess I can attribute some of my new behavior to the book “The Magic”. Due to the principles that I have been reading, I am learning to realize that my thank yous are going a long way…for that I am eternally grateful. Ase.

Woke Up With the Urge

(sorry for the not so appealing pic)

So yesterday I woke up at 6:30 am to workout and decided to sew afterward. I had a dress cut but decided to change it to a skirt. (Who does that???) So here I am, a novice, with my bright ideas. It was frustrating at times (popping thread, broken serger needles, the usual) but I enjoyed the experience overall. I even wore my skirt to class yesterday and forgot to take pics. 😦

(the original dress)

By the way, I wanted to test blogging from my phone. Not sure how it will turn out but trying new things these days…fearlessly…ok maybe a lil apprehension. Lol. I am making progress nevertheless.

Make today a day worth remembering.